Faith perspective: if faith is important to you, then consider how resolving conflicts and showing grace to your partner falls in line with your religious beliefs. In sum, grace is a gift that is given without merit. In other words, when we show grace to someone, we choose to be loving and forgiving towards them, even if we don’t feel that the other person deserves it.
Extending grace to your
partner allows you to develop your ability to be like Christ, purely gracious
and merciful. When we display grace to the loved one, we are not trying
to fix them, but we wait for God to work in us and in our partner. Christ
still loves us even though we continue to fall into sin our entire lives.
So,
knowing that, can you challenge yourself to show grace to your partner even
though you may not always feel that he or she deserves it? If you feel that this step can be difficult
for you, remember the time when someone else extended grace to you. You may not
have deserved it, but you were given grace anyway. What was it like for you?
What did you feel like when this happened? Why do you think it’s important to
extend grace to your partner in this relationship? Reflecting on these
questions can make it easier for you to extend grace to your loved one even in
difficult times, when you may be arguing or disagreeing with each other.
Anna is a Doctoral Student in Clinical Psychology, and she also has a Master's Degree in Professional Counseling. Anna is certified in Hope-Focused Approach to couples counseling, and her primary clinical interests are in the area of Marriage and Family Therapy. It is her passion to help couples overcome difficulties in their relationship by building up their strengths. She would be happy to work with you and guide you in the journey towards a happier, healthier, and more vibrant relationship!.
