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Important Notice: This presentation is  not intended for individuals who have experienced a serious offense, such as infidelity or domestic violence. These behaviors should be addressed with a marriage and family counselor.This module only applies to neutral behaviors that are commonly misunderstood or conflict provoking 


Attributions and Misunderstandings
 

Why does your partner do the things they do?  This module is for couples that find it hard to  understand each other’s behavior. 

Do you or your partner often view each other's actions in a negative light?

This e-hope intervention may be for you. This module will help you identify and re-evaluate common interactions that are perceived as negative, and develop a more fair and positive understanding for each other. 

Attributions are thoughts or beliefs about a person's behavior. 

So if your partner were to bring a gift home to you, what would you believe about that gift-giving?  Is the gift because the person loves you?  Or is the gift just a lame apology for another hurtful action?  Your beliefs can make your break your relationship.

Attributions can be positive or negative and accurate or inaccurate. Its the negative inaccurate attributions that often lead trouble within relationships. The research for over 25 years has shown that strong negative attributions can lead to relational dissatisfaction. This e-hope module will help you to re-evaluate the way you think about your partner, and your relationship. 

To participate in this module complete the following activities:


1)    Read our blog on this topic at the link provided here: Click here

2)    Take a pre-test below on attributions within your relationship and write down your scores.

3)    Watch the 5 minute authorstream below on attributions and relationships (together if possible)

4)    Download and Complete the worksheet on attributions in your relationship with your partner

5)    Once you’ve completed the previous activities, retake the self-test on attributions, discuss what might improve your relationship with your partner, and compare your post-test results with the pre-test.

Step 2:  Take the pre-test on attributions in your relationship  (if you aren't working with a Hope consultant then type in "self directed" as the name of your consultant)

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Step 3:  Watch this brief presentation.  This presentation can be watched separately or together to learn more about attributions and misunderstanding

Step 4:  Download to complete the Relationship Attributions, and the Theory A versus Theory B worksheet together as a couple:


Step 5:  After completing the information learned and the attributions worksheet together, scroll down and take the short self-test again and see if you answers change.  (if you aren't working with a Hope consultant then type in "self directed" as the name of your consultant)

 

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