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Interested in a Christian perspective on this topic? See the bottom of this page

 

Important Notice: This presentation is  not intended for individuals who have experienced a serious offense, such as infidelity or domestic violence. These behaviors should be addressed with a couple therapist.



Building Intimacy through Scaling and Cleaving


Learn how to increase your intimacy using a simple model called CLEAVE and get a visual image of intimacy in your relationship using a tool called scaling.  You can either use the worksheets or practice scaling in your own home.  Spend at least a week working on the CLEAVE intervention between beginning and ending this module.

This intervention is for couples who want to get closer and gain more intimacy in their relationship, and the intervention accomplishes that through the six-part acronym of CLEAVE and the scaling self-assessment.

CLEAVE is:

Changing actions to positive

Loving Romance

Employing a calendar

Adjusting intimacy elsewhere

Valuing statements

Enjoying yourselves sexually


To learn more, take a look at the blog below!

Figure out what kind of intimacy you’re looking for, figure out where you are at now, and look at different options for increasing intimacy in order to decide what works best for you!

To participate in this module complete the following activities:

1)    Read our blog on this topic at the link provided here: Click here

2)    Take a pretest below on CLEAVE within your relationship and write down your scores to review later.

3)    Watch the 4 minute video below on CLEAVE (together if possible).

4)    Download and Complete the worksheet on CLEAVE and the worksheet on scaling in your relationship with your partner. Try to focus on one area of intimacy at a time as you complete the tests and worksheets (see blog for details).

5)    Once you’ve completed the previous activities, retake the self-test on CLEAVE, discuss what might improve your relationship with your partner, and compare your post-test results with the pre-test results.


Step 2:  Take the pre-test.  Scroll down to take a self-test on intimacy in your relationship.  (if you aren't working with a Hope consultant then type in "self directed" as the name of your consultant)

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Step 3:  Watch this brief video to learn more about CLEAVE for intimacy.

Step 4:  Download the CLEAVE intervention worksheet and the Sculpting and Scaling Worksheet to complete together as a couple:

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Step 5:  After learning all the information together and taking a week to go through the worksheets  together, scroll down and take the short self-test again and see if your answers change.  
(if you aren't working with a Hope consultant then type in "self directed" as the name of your consultant)

 

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In the book of Genesis, God tells us that a man is to leave his father and mother, and to cleave to his wife. This means to attach to, and become one with, your partner.  Jesus desires to change the world through our unity (John 17), and thus we can trust that unity in marriage is a priority for Him. So He will be with you in this process!

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